Sobriety

July 30, 2011

Here we go.  This is the first post of my new blog.  I plan to answer the most frequently asked questions I get when I'm out speaking on sexual addiction.

Question:  What is Sobriety?

Lately, we have been using the acronym MAP to define sobriety.  M stands for masturbation.  This is a controversial question in the recovery community as some would consider that masturbation is OK for all or at least for single men.  I have always felt that for an addict it is never a good idea as it usually leads to neurochemical tolerance in the brain and that will cause the habit to escalate over time.  For a more thorough answer to the question of whether or not masturbation is sinful or morall appropriate, go to our website at http://www.faithfulandtrueministries/ and click on the resources tab and then on the articles tab.

The A stands for adultery.  By that we mean both emotional and physical adultery.  Many men that I work with get involved first with women and share emotional intimacy with them that they are not with their wives.  We also consider that looking lustfully at women, especially in terms of pornography is adultery.  Jesus talks about looking at a woman with lust in your heart in Matt. 5.

The P stands for pornography in all of its forms, magazines, DVDs, and most prevalently on the Internet.

It is always best to keep things simple and thorough.  When an addict says he is MAP sober, others will automatically know what he means.  Let me know what you think.

Mark

First Blog

Honestly, getting into the blogging world scares me a little in terms of the amount of work it may represent.  And yet, many have asked me to do it for years.  What I intend to do is answer basic questions about sex addiction recovery and see what dialogue ensues.  Every week I will try to answer a new question and we;ll go from there.  I thank you for signing up and look forward to the interaction.  Blessings,  Mark